Great question! Couples that choose to write and recite their own wedding vows for their big day often worry about what to say and how to say it. I have some great tips to share but the most important thing for you to remember is this - there are no rules, rights or wrongs. Sit down, grab a glass of wine or two, a pen and a sheet of paper (or whatever you kids use nowadays to record your thoughts), and think about your answers to these questions.
1 - When did you fall in love? Why?
2 - When did you say "I Love You" for the first time?
3 - What qualities do you most admire in each other?
4 - What does your partner bring out in you?
5 - What ways are you alike? Different? How do you complement one another?
6 - Why did you choose to get married?
7 - What have you supported each other through?
8 - What do you have together that you don't have apart from one another?
9 - What do you want to accomplish together?
10 - What, in your view, is the most important part of marriage?
See? Now you have some good stuff to use!
A few other tips!
1 - Start early! Don't leave writing your vows until the day before!
2 - Don't make them too long. Your vows should get at the heart of what marrying this person means to you; pick the most important points and make them well.
3 - Have your final version ready a few days before your wedding. Practice them out loud.
4 - Make sure your officiant has your final copy of your vows so that he/she can have them ready to hand to you during the ceremony.
That's it! Remember - there are no rights or wrongs here. You can also borrow from poetry, scripture, movies, books, even from a journal you keep. Whatever it is, I'm sure the words you put together for each other will be absolutely perfect. Be yourselves.
Happy vow writing!!